In fact, his penis never actually became erect. I performed oral sex on him for less than 20 seconds. Before putting his finger inside my anus, he left the bed, went into the bathroom to put petroleum jelly on his finger. I don't know if he had precum on his hand/finger. He also inserted his finger into my anus. He did rub his penis against my vagina and anus. I am sure there was precum as I saw and felt it when I stroked his penis. He tried to insert his penis into my vagina, but I pulled away. He performed oral sex on me and also licked my anus. During the last week of December, I engaged in a 'stupid' act with a married man. I was hoping to not have to ask my questions, but today I started to really worry.